Mondays are infamous for being a 9-5ers constant reminder that they hate where they work and/or the work they do. So many of us wish that we could press fast-forward on each weekday, pause on Saturday, and rewind on Sunday. It’s quite sad when you think about it.
You give up 40+ hours of your life each week to do something or be somewhere that makes you absolutely miserable. That’s over 2,000 hours that you wish didn’t exist in your 8,760-hour year!
I get it. I’ve definitely had my fair share of crappy positions where I died a little inside each time I sat down at my desk, and still, some days aren’t full of rainbows, but you don’t have to wake up in misery every single day.
It is possible to find a bit of happiness with your job, and although you probably won’t be running through a garden of tulips, at least you’ll stop crossing out the days until Friday.
Ditch the “why me” mentality
Being completely over your job can cause you to dwell on all of the negatives imaginable. The only thing you want to do is indulge in all of the wah-wah emotions you’re feeling, and when Peppy Peter stops by your desk to sprinkle a bit of happy dust, you immediately blow it away.
How in the world is he so happy in this hell-hole?! Well, I’ll tell you…gratitude is the attitude.
The greatest comfort comes from highlighting all of the positives in your life and what you have accomplished. I know it’s cliché, but it really does!
Think about it, it’s easy to say that you hate your job, but how difficult is it to come up with a positive? Is your eye twitching yet?
This is because you’ve let your negative emotions consume you. If you keep letting them win they’ll quickly become your own personal anchor, pinning you to the bottom of the ‘FML Sea’.
Before I snagged my current position, I was passed up for over 10+ others. Now I won’t lie and say that I’ve never opened up a container of ice cream and cried my eyeballs out because I did, but I never let myself sulk for too long.
The why me?! mentality attracts negative energy like a mosquito to a lightbulb, and suddenly everything in your life begins to go down the craphole. I know, because I’ve experienced it myself.
Make a list of the positives
As difficult as it may be, make a list of all of the positives that your job brings. What skills has it taught you? What lessons have you learned? Who has it brought into your life? What is it allowing you to do?
This list will be your sobering reminder that things aren’t as bad as you make them out to be. I know that sometimes you get tired of painting on a smile. You want that smile to go beyond your lips and actually manifest itself into your life, but your time is coming soon
Having trouble finding at least one positive to write down? #1: It pays bills!
Determine what is making you miserable
Have you ever just sat down and really thought about what it is that’s making you so miserable in your position? Instead of shouting that you hate it so much, why is that so?
If it’s your jerk boss, what about your boss makes him a jerk? If it’s the work that you do, what about it makes it difficult/ not up to par?
Pinpointing exactly what you don’t like will help you create new ways to combat the issues. For example, if you work in customer service and dealing with angry customers gives you hives, come up with a strategy to ease those tense moments. This could be you reminding yourself to put yourself in their shoes to become more empathetic, or writing a script to follow.
For everything causing you misery, there is something that can be done to make your work-life better, but you’ll never find a solution if you don’t know the problem.
Start saving ASAP
Saving up to prepare to leave the devil’s den brings you an unexplained sense of peace.
When I was 18, my friend and I had this great idea to ditch our Sonic carhop jobs and become CNAs. We were going to enroll in the nursing program (so we thought) and assumed the switch would give us a leg up.
Bless our hearts.
After less than a month I knew that I had to break free and soon. I often imagined myself clocking out for lunch and never returning, but my car payment took half of my paycheck and my mom had already made it crystal clear that she wasn’t going to help pay my bills.
So what did I do you ask? I saved like a madwoman. I saved like an 18-year-old that was trapped at a job where she was expected to wipe someone’s poop and vomit. In less than six months I was out!
Against the “don’t quit until you have another job lined up” advice, I jumped ship before my first interview and have yet to regret it. Oh yeah, I didn’t become a nurse either.
If you know that your job is short-term, start saving NOW. Write down all of your monthly expenses, and determine how much money you will need to cover them comfortably.
Stash away at least 3-6 months’ worth of expenses to give yourself enough time to interview and get through the typical two-week waiting period until your first paycheck.
Move with the cheese
A few months back, I found a dusty book on an old cubicle called Who Moved My Cheese by Spencer Johnson. It would be another week before my work computer got installed, so I was happy I had something else to kill time instead of staring at the wall.
Anyways, it took about an hour to read and my initial thought was that it was cheesy (no pun intended).
To sum it up, two mice and two “little people” scurried through a maze in search of cheese, and one day the little people hit the jackpot. They were living the life until their supply ran out.
The mice caught wind that the cheese wouldn’t replenish itself so they ran off in search of more while the people stayed in the same spot, hoping the cheese would somehow come back. Well, it didn’t, and they were so stubborn that they damn near starved.
As corny as it sounds, the book had an amazing lesson about dealing with change in the workplace and even your life. I don’t know about you, but I cannot count how many times I’ve heard co-workers complain that things “just aren’t the same anymore.” They downright refuse to embrace change and cling for dear life to their outdated methods.
Could this be you? No really.
Maybe you underwent an organizational change or have new systems and processes. “Different” is often met with fear and resistance, especially if you’ve gotten “too comfortable.” Thus, you’ve got to move with the cheese or go hungry.
In the past four months, I’ve been moved under new management three times. I’m starting off the New Year with a new supervisor (again), but I’m riding the waves with grace.
First off, I’m thankful I still have a job (praise hands) and the constant switch of departments has allowed me to expand my skillset.
It’s crazy, I kinda’ feel like that book found me because it knew the storm I was about to face.
Discover what’s strumming your heartstrings
No matter how grateful or open-minded you remain, if you’re not satisfied with the type of work that you do then you will always feel unfulfilled.
I once heard a man say that you find more dead people walking the streets than in a graveyard, and it punched me hard in the gut. No, I’m not talking about the walking dead; I’m talking about dying souls. I’m talking about waking up every day knowing that you’re not reaching your full potential. I’m talking about working a job that you have absolutely no interest in, but it has “really good benefits!” or it makes your parents proud.
As I’ve mentioned before, you have the power to save your life if you’re willing to get uncomfortable. That nagging feeling you have to pivot will never go away no matter how hard you try to suppress it. It’s your inner self crying out, and you can either answer to the calling or continue to run from yourself. The girl in my vision seems to be pretty darn happy so I’m rolling with her!
Alright, so there you have it. When you hate your job, most of your misery is actually coming from within. You harbor all of these negative thoughts and feelings, poisoning your mindset and ultimately your day. There’s not a one-size-fits-all solution, but there is a solution nonetheless.
Give these tips a try, stay positive (even if it burns), and watch what happens!